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Natasha Levinger's avatar

Crying and grateful for this, Kate. Makes me know this country has a lot of love in it too, as we grieve all of the injustices we’re going through. Thank you for this. ❤️

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Kate Spencer's avatar

this is what i try to focus on when I'm really down about all of it. Love you, N

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Mollie's avatar

Lost my Dad on New Years Eve this year, and I wonder "am I doing grief right?". I think of you often Kate because of how openly you talk about grief and model it for us. Thank you.

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Kate Spencer's avatar

I'm so sorry Mollie. You are doing it all right. Sending you love.

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Elizabeth Davis's avatar

As someone who just lost her mom two weeks ago, this was really lovely and healing to read. Thank you.

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Kate Spencer's avatar

Sending you so much love. It is really, really hard. I see you. xo

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Lemmonout's avatar

This was beautiful Kate! Look at your mom-so lovely!! xo

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Kate Spencer's avatar

A total babe!

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Kaitlyn WB's avatar

I came here to say just this!

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Danielle's avatar

This is beautiful, Kate. Sending you, your mint, and your community lots of love and support.

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Kate Spencer's avatar

Thank you Danielle! xo

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Myriam Curran's avatar

Kate your writing is so uplifting even when the subject is grief.

Wouldn't it be wonderful to have a reunion of the"group?"

I have happy memories of the sleepovers.

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Kate Spencer's avatar

Myriam! I am so touched to get your message. Miss you much. I would love nothing more than to have a sleepover with the girls and to eat some of your famous potatoes.

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Jody Lee's avatar

This was so lovely. Thank you!

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Kate Spencer's avatar

Thank you Jody!

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Kate Sweeney's avatar

This is so beautiful, thank you for sharing so openly. Also, mint naturally dies back in winter and regrows in spring. Which means your doing it right. Sending you so much love.

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Kate Spencer's avatar

Thank you my dear friend! xoxo

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Jessica Langer's avatar

Kate, this piece is gold. You ARE a blessing from God and I honestly think that message from that single mom w the body wash came from your own mom so you know how treasured you are…the signs of her love for you are everywhere…in the mint, in your children, in your eyes. Growth and time does not kill grief it only establishes it deeper into the soil. It’s part of you/us. You are so loved.

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Kate Spencer's avatar

Oh my friend! Thank you for this. Sure do wish Martha could have met you. Love you.

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Sharon Pelham's avatar

This was a balm for my soul this am. Thank you, Kate. Missing my Mom for almost 8 years now.

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Kate Spencer's avatar

Lots of love to you Sharon. xoxo

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Susan Brighton's avatar

Lovely, Kate. ❤️🥲 I love you!

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Kate Spencer's avatar

LOVE YOU!!!

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Abby Gardner's avatar

So gorgeous, as always, Kate. xx

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Kate Spencer's avatar

Thanks Abby xoxo

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Katie Hawkins-Gaar's avatar

This was just beautiful. There are so many grief metaphors out there, but I haven't heard the weed one before — what a great way to put it! Sending you love as you remember your mom. xo

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Kate Spencer's avatar

Thanks Katie! I owe it all to the mint 🤣❤️

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Doris's avatar

This was a beautiful piece, and so true.

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Colette Auclair's avatar

Kate, that picture of your mom is so joyful, it made me weep. And yes, grief is the price of love. Thank you for this beautiful and heartfelt piece.

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Katie Voss's avatar

I feel this every day. Such love and happiness that I had a wonderful mother, and great sadness that she passed too early. It’ll be 8 years in October and my oldest is graduating from high school this year. She was 10 when her grandmother passed away and oh how I wish I had my mom to get through these teenage years and now this next phase. The grief is palpable some days, and others it is a glimmer that forever reminds me of her unconditional love that continues long after she is gone. Thank you, Kate for your continued words of Hope and wisdom. I’ve referred to your book often (The Dead Moms Club) as I’ve navigated these last 8 years. Sending love-

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